My 'Girly' Rant

For as long as I can remember I've pictured myself having two boys 'when I grow up'.  The thought of having a girl always scared the crap out of me.  Perhaps it is because I grew up with an older brother but I was never one of those girly-girls.  I enjoyed riding bikes, building forts and playing every sport under the sun (I was shitty at all of them, but hey - I tried!). I did enjoy playing 'house' and dressing up but I was never a child that was into putting make up on, pretending to be a princess or obsessing over Disney movies and their ridiculous princess/prince storylines.

When we became pregnant I instantly had a gut feeling that I was carrying a little girl and that was so scary for me, and even more so when it was confirmed on Christmas morning.  Don't get me wrong, we were astatic, however my head began to spin and protective Mama began to surface. As a high school teacher I see the daily struggles that teenagers, specifically female teens are faced with (not that boys aren't faced with challenges, but I personally think that females have a more difficult time successfully developing through those formative years). I constantly think to myself that I would have never been able to survive being a teenage girl in todays world - the pressure, the social media, and the trends are so overwhelming.

I don't want to be a parent that deprives my child of something they want or are interested in learning more about but I do want to be a parent who protects my little girl from the ridiculous stereotypes and gender roles that exist.  I want our little girl to grow up knowing that she is loved and valued, and  an not because she is a "cutie" and "a little princess" or whatever else seems to be plastered across the chest of every girl onesie on the market, but because she is a smart, mindful and caring human being. I vow to be a parent that instils strength and values, while encouraging independence and fostering intelligence. I don't want a little girl who feels helpless without a "prince", not strong enough to chase her dreams, or thinks she is only valued because of her appearance. So often females base their self-worth on these factors and I am not willing to accept that for our little girl. I don't want her to be treated differently because of her gender. 

My husband is going to be the most amazing father -- I know this because of the way he interacts with our 2 1/2 year old nephew.  He is compassionate, fun, and willing to give100% of his attention during those intense play sessions.  My husband isn't as vocal as I am but I know his fears are similar to the ones I've stated above.  He asked me a few months ago if it would be ok to roughhouse with our daughter the way he roughhouses with our nephew. The answer was an overwhelming YES! YES! YES! I can't wait to see him playing with our daughter the way he plays with our nephew. Fun times ahead!

 My husband and I have a shit-ton to learn but I know that we are so ready to get this party started in a few short weeks. Bring it on! We are ready for you baby!